In part 1, we dug into ‘expectations’ - and how we have these weird little (and unhelpful) beliefs that we never question.
In part 2, we’re going to look at how we respond to minor setbacks.
I’ve often used an analogy with clients over the years, which centres around what we do when we drop our phone.
Ironically, I actually dropped my phone yesterday - and a corner of the screen cracked - so this is super relevant!
I don’t know about you, but when I drop my phone, and it gets a crack, it’s a tad frustrating.
Yep, I’ve got one of those screen protector thingies, but it’s still annoying. You have to peel it off and then order a new one, and then attempt to put it on straight again.
Anyway, the point is that dropping and cracking your phone, is annoying.
However………what I don’t do, and I presume you don’t do, when our phones are dropped and cracked…….is any of the following:
1) Whip out a hammer and start smashing the sh*t out of it
2) Hire a JCB and drive back and forth over it
3) Grab a rifle and use it as target practice
4) Drop it in a tub of acid
5) Use it as charcoal for a bbq
We don’t do those things, for two reasons:
Reason 1 is because they’re stupid.
Reason 2 is because they’re a disproportionate response to dropping your phone and getting a small crack in it.
Just because something goes slightly wrong, it’s stupid and disproportionate to then make matters worse.
But that’s what many folk do with their eating.
They’ll have a little “slip up’ - maybe a minor binge on a weekend.
And instead of just thinking “ah well, that’s life. Better take more care next time”……… they proceed to start mainlining doughnuts and Haribos!
In what world of logic, is this a sensible and proportionate response to having a big of a binge?
It’s the equivalent of smashing your iphone up just because you dropped it and cracked it.
This series of ‘broken mindsets’ is all about getting your thinking ‘right’.
What goes on between the ears dictates what goes on behavour-wise.
We all have faulty thinking patterns (like little software bugs) - but we can change them pretty easily if we want to.
We just first need to be aware of them. And then commit to correcting them.
If the response is then “Oh, it’s really hard, it’s just the way i am”, then you’re fighting to defend a mindset that doesn’t serve you.
You have to then ask yourself WHY you’re so addcicted to the struggle.
Personal responsibility starts with accepting that we’re all in control of and capable of changing our ‘scripts’ - the stories we tell ourselves and the mindsets we hold.
Even if you just practice applying part 1 (expectations) and this part 2 (a more ‘adult’ response to setbacks), you’ll see signifcant changes in your eating and weight loss efforts :-)
Over to you!