How To Stop Caring About Other People’s Opinions

How To Stop Caring About Other People’s Opinions


Worrying about what other people think of us.....
It’s one of the most common anxieties humans face..
It TRAPS us - and often prevents us from doing things we want to do, or just being ourselves.

I’m here to tell you why it’s actually delusional.
And narcissistic.
Seriously! ;-)


Nobody wants to be branded a Narcissist…..hence why I use a derogatory label, when trying to get people to stop worrying so much about outside opinion.
DON’T Get triggered by it. USE it to help change your mindset :-)


 “If you realised how little time, other poeple spent thinking about you, you’d be offended” 


It’s not exagerating to say that this one sentence transformed my wife’s life. She’ll openly say so.

See, we go around, with this internal narrative in our noggins, that other people are alwyas watching us, judging us, and thinking about us.

But the truth is that YOU consume vurtually no time in anyone’s thoughts. All day every day.

If you’re starting to think “ah, but my partner and kids love me”, you’re missing the point.
Of course they do!
Although if we were somehow able to track their thoughts for 24 hours, I think the actual volume of time they actively and consciously spend thinking about you, would be miniscule!

Besides, we tend not to worry too much about loved one’s thoughts.
Because we know they love and don’t judge us.


It’s the strangers - or people we kind of know - that we spend far too long worrying about what they think of us.


TRY THIS: 
Ask yourself……right now, how long you spend thinking about ANYONE that isn’t very relevant to you.
Literally, how many seconds of your day, do you spend sat there, consciously thinking about another person or persons?
Judging them? Thinking bad thoughts?

I’d hazaard a guess that it’s somewhere between zero and a handful of seconds.


So if that’s the case, then why the hell do you think you’re so special?
If you don’t spend time thinking about and judging other people, why the hell do you think you’re different - and that other people are spending time thinking about and judging you?

That’s borderline naracassim (and yes, I’m uysing that word to HELP trigger a different mindset……)

Having the realisatio that you’re just not important enough to occupy other people’s thoughts, is freeing.
You’re just one of 7 billion people on a tiny planet in an infinite universe.

The other side of the coin to this, is to then not start fretting that “if nobody’s really spending time thinking about me, then what does that say about me?”

But that’s a seaprate conversation around emotional security.

The take homes from this messages is simple.

1. Nobody spends any real time consciously thinking about you in a judgemental way - they have more important or pressing matters to deal with as they go through their lives.

2. If you’re not spending lots of time judging people in your thoughts, then why do you thik you’re so special for others to spend time judging you?


Has this awoken a different perspective for the common worry of other people’s opinions?

Agree or disagree with the sentiment?